art, love, music, theatre

This just in: Once is now playing at Washington D.C.’s Kennedy Center

The touring cast of the musical Once

Love can change our lives in an instant. Suddenly our view of the world, of ourselves, of what’s behind us, and what’s ahead of us shifts. It stays with us even after the faces and circumstances change. Love endures. That’s the message of the musical Once—that love can open doors where there were only walls. It can chart new beginnings and reawaken what we thought was long since dead.

For two and a half hours I sat in the Eisenhower Theater completely enthralled by the dexterity of the cast, expertly led by Stuart Ward and Dani de Waal. With inventive staging, soaring music, raucous dancing, and raw emotion, they constantly shuttled me between despair and elation, and I didn’t mind that rollercoaster ride one bit. The journey reminded me of that beautiful quote by Rilke:

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue…the point is, to live everything…perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”

Once doesn’t have any answers about the many conundrums of love nor how to resolve all of the complex questions that live deep within the layers of our hearts. What it does show us is that we must allow ourselves to feel everything, and be both glad and grateful for all of it.

Once runs through August 16th in Washington D.C. at The Kennedy Center’s Eisenhower Theater.

loss, love, relationships

This just in: Be mindful of where and with whom you place your energy

Give love where it's appreciated
Give love where it’s appreciated

I’ve learned to value people over products, experiences over possessions, and time over money. The greatest harvest grows where and with whom we place our minds and our hearts. Make sure the company you keep is as good as the company you provide. The path to care and concern is a two-way street. Don’t make someone a priority when to them you are merely an option. You deserve better. We all do.

justice, love

This just in: Celebrate love


So many times we’re asked to shrink, to tempter our expectations, to conform, settle, and receive less than what we truly deserve. Yesterday, the Supreme Court changed that. Love won, and not just the “right” kind of love according to the definition of a shrinking minority, but ALL love for EVERYONE. That decision made my eyes tear and my heart open. The decision on gay marriage is proof that we have higher standards, for ourselves and our government. That we can do better than we’ve done in the past. That we can transform. That light, and love, will win as long as we continue to believe and continue to fight for every person’s dignity. Up with love!

creativity, love

This just in: How we become who we are

We become what we want
What we want determines who we are and who we become.

What we want determines who we are and who we become. Where we want to live. Who we want to be with. What we want to do. That all feeds into our experiences now that will shape who we are tomorrow. Right now, we’re actively shaping who we will be, and that’s worthy of consideration.

change, creativity, love

This just in: We’re all a work in progress

Keep calm. Work in progress.
Keep calm. Work in progress.

These last few months have held a lot of change for me and I’m not particularly skilled at giving myself any slack. I expect that I can accept and make the most of change at every turn. This weekend I found myself a little overwhelmed by it all. I had a stressful week and a weekend that, while filled with activity, was also on the stressful side in a number of ways. At one point I was very tired, and also not feeling well, and all of this change hit me like a ton of bricks. Even though many of these changes have been good, all change takes some getting used to.

So today I’m making a pledge to be kinder to myself. To give myself some more time and space to breathe and just be. I’m working on making my life simpler and easier to manage. I’m setting aside specific blocks of time for writing and reflecting. I’m also doubling down on my home meditation and yoga practice. More sleep. More leafy greens. More water.

These sound like simple things. But they’re powerful. I’m learning to accept that I’m a work in progress. I’m not going to get everything just right out of the gate. It’s going to take some iteration. It’s going to take making some mistakes and falling down. And that’s not easy but it’s necessary. Anything worthwhile takes time, and love, and sometimes that love needs to be directed within.


This just in: Let the love in

Let love in
Let love in

Father’s Day, the summer solstice, international yoga day. Just let yourself be open to the light, love, and care that the world is offering to you today. We don’t always recognize its form. Support can come in ways we least expect. But never doubt that it’s there. Even in our saddest, darkest times, the light and love from the universe are there if we want to find and embrace them.

inspiration, love

This just in: Building ladders

Give someone enough rope, and support and help and love, and they will build a ladder.
Give someone enough rope, and support and help and love, and they will build a ladder.

We’ve all heard that saying “give someone enough rope…” What if we gave someone enough rope, and support, feedback, help, and love? Rather than meeting their own demise, would they build a ladder to help themselves up and out of their situation? And could that ladder ultimately lead to their evolution, to them becoming the very best version of themselves? What would happen to the world if we stopped expecting the worst and did everything within our power to help people be and do their best? That’s the world I want to live in.

Life, loss, love

This just in: Live everything

Live everything.
Live everything.

“And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” ~ Rilke

My friend, Marita, sent me this quote a few weeks ago and it’s been lingering at the edge of my mind ever since. Life offers us so many questions. What should we do, go, be, and with whom? What matters most, right now, at this moment, and do we have the courage to pursue it even if it doesn’t go as we hope it will? Can we take chances? Can we let go? Can we allow ourselves to be infused with every emotion when it strikes us and really feel it down to our bones without breaking?

I’m beginning to realize that Rilke was spot on—life is about living everything as it comes. The good and the bad. The painful and joyful. The elation and the disappointment. In this way, there is no wasted time. Just experience.

loss, love, relationships

This just in: Hands strong enough to come home empty

Hands strong enough to come home empty
Hands strong enough to come home empty

My college friend, KaRyn, once write a beautiful poem and the lines from it have stuck with me for almost 20 years. One line in particular has been running through my mind lately and I think it’s the perfect way to think about change: “With hands strong enough to come home empty.”

It’s easy to take the opportunities that just come along. It’s hard to turn away or let go of something that’s not right for us when it seems like the alternative is nothingness, emptiness. But here’s what I’m learning. If we want to receive what and who is truly meant for us, then we need space. We need emptiness before we can have fullness. These days I’m reminding myself that emptiness isn’t something to fear or be sad about. It means we’re ready for what’s next.

animals, dogs, love

This just in: What it means to love an animal

Phin and his pal, Otis
Phin and his pal, Otis

“Until one has loved an animal a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.” ~Anatole France

There is something so easy and natural about loving an animal. The first time I met Phin, I knew in an instant that he was the dog for me. People told me this would happen, but I didn’t believe them. I thought my ever-questioning mind would fully get in the way. It didn’t. I saw Phineas wiggle his little self into the waiting room and with that he wiggled his way right into my heart. I scooped him up without hesitation, and the rest is history. Loving an animal so much has been one of the greatest gift in my life, and I imagine it will be a gift that never ends.