Month: November 2009

change, future, relationships

My Year of Hopefulness – I Got my Whole Future in My Hands

Christa Avampato

“Put your future in good hands – your own.” ~ Anonymous

I read this quote a few days ago on Owning Pink’s Twitter account (@Owningpink), one of my very favorite accounts to check. It is always brimming with inspiring ideas. This one spoke to me quite clearly and was just the advice I needed. Taking our future into our own hands is a brave and frightening act, though once we accept it as a way to move forward, it really can move mountains.
Today I had to have a conversation that I have been dreading for some time now. I knew it was coming and I was nervous about it. I was afraid of what the reaction of the of the other person might be and I was afraid of my tendency toward blatant honesty. How delicately did I need to plead my case? Would I have to tap dance around what I really wanted to say, playing politics, or could I just get on with it?
No surprise that I went the honesty route. I explained how I wanted my future to unfold and where I thought the best place to do my life’s work would be. And a remarkable thing happened – the very person I was frightened of, the very person who I thought would not at all support my decision, stepped up and offered his hand. This person and I have on occasion had a rough go of it. We haven’t always seen eye-to-eye. As a matter of fact we’ve butted heads so often that it’s become a habit for us. And yet, there is some kind of magic that honesty breeds. Once he understood my point-of-view, he realized that he had the opportunity to make my dream come true, or at least to help it along in a significant way. And so, he did.
Before I went to see him, I took a deep breathe, smiled, and told myself, “you can do this. Just go in there with an honest heart and say exactly what you think.” I did. He listened. And before I even had to ask for help, before I even dared to ask for help, he offered it up with a smile. All my worrying had been for naught. He asked me to think it over, and make sure that this is really the direction I want to go in. I thanked him, knowing that I’ll be back to see him tomorrow, to tell him I’m ready to build the life I imagine, to thank him for his help, and to take my life into my own hands.
design, education, innovation, The Journal of Cultural Conversation

The Journal of Cultural Conversation – The Power of Design Thinking

Christa Avampato

Hello from The Journal of Cultural Conversation! Laura has just returned from her Peruvian adventures and I’ve trekked back from Costa Rica by way of Florida with the fam. All the while we’ve kept up our blogging, commenting, story-telling antics and anecdotes. We hope you’ll join us today for a conversation about the power of design thinking. Click here.

adventure, change

My Year of Hopefulness – Thankful for the Unknown

Christa Avampato

“Do not stop thinking of life as an adventure. You have no security unless you can live bravely, excitingly, imaginatively, unless you can choose a challenge instead of a competence.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt


An opinion article was published in the New York Times on Thanksgiving that gave thanks for the unknown. It struck me so profoundly because of all the surprise that entered my life this year. Through it all, I never stopped believing that something good would come from it all, that I’d be able to raise my head up eventually, shake off the sadness, and rejoin the human race as a more empathic, compassionate person. What I didn’t expect is that I would emerge so brazenly fearless, that I would myself feeling more secure once everything extraneous was stripped away.


The great joy of living through something that we imagine we cannot live through is that we become unable to tolerate the act of wasting time. Tragedy makes our vision crystal clear; it helps us to see things with a sharp focus that we never had before. I sometimes wish that we could obtain this kind of clarity without having to live through tragedy. One of my business school professors talked to us about the sad necessity of the “burning platform” that inspires change. I wish my platform, my home, didn’t have to literally catch fire, bringing a whole new meaning to the term “burning platform”. It certainly did inspire me to change my life in profound and daring ways. I’ve been putting off a PhD program for over a year; I’ve been settling in my career and my relationships; material possessions were beginning to wield too much importance in my life. I needed a shake-up, a change, and I got it in spades. Now I’m studying for the GRE, pumping up my efforts on the relationships in my life that are truly valuable to me, and embracing a lifestyle that places far less value on material valuables.


The unknown is a scary, precious thing. The holidays are a great marker for us, a time of reflection to consider exactly what we want our lives to be about. This is an opportunity for us to be with friends and family and truly consider Eleanor Roosevelt’s great question: are we challenging ourselves or resting on our competencies? Are we stepping up to meet the world or taking a comfortable seat and just watching the world go by? As we take a bit of time to relax this holiday season, it’s my great hope that we will seriously re-consider our priorities and how we spend our time and effort so that we do as much good in 2010 as we possibly can. There is no time like the present to take up a new adventure.

design, friendship, innovation

My Year of Hopefulness – Find Your "T"

Christa Avampato

This morning on the plane home I read an article from Stanford’s Social Innovation Review entitled “Design Thinking for Social Innovation” by IDEO‘s Tim Brown and Jocelyn Wyatt. In the article the talk about looking for team members who have their own “T”. The vertical line of the “T” is each team member’s unique skill or knowledge that they bring to a cross-functional team and the horizontal line of the “T” is a shared set of characteristics that all of the team members share: empathy, respect for the unique talents of others, openness, curiosity, optimism, a tendency to learn by doing, and experimentation.


I like this approach to team-building because it inherently incorporates diversity into the structure of a successful team while also making sure that team members are cut from the same cloth at a very basic human values level. I also think it’s a healthy recipe for building out friendships and relationships in our lives, as well as a good strategy for building a family. It’s a formula for accumulating a set of good-hearted, talented people. And isn’t that the kind of people we’d all like to surround ourselves with?


How does one go about building a personal “T”? Can empathy, curiosity, and optimism be taught or are these traits we must be born with? Can we build an education system that instills and nurtures these values into our children at the very beginning of their learning years? I’d like to think that we’re all born curious, and I’d like to think that our natural creative, empathic nature is so strong that even if we have lost our way, these tendencies can be recovered and strengthened.


And what about that vertical in the “T”? How do we discover what makes us special? Is that something special about each of us something we are born with or is it something that we learn? And can it be changed throughout our lives? I believe that the answer is a resounding “yes” on all counts. My special trait is my storytelling, my writing. While I have a natural inclination for this, it requires practice. I certainly wasn’t born knowing how to write well. I needed to put a lot of time and effort into it, though because I enjoyed it and saw a rapid rate of improvement with my practice, I was encouraged to become an even better writer.


I’ve seen this same pattern with every person in my life: my brother-in-law who is a fine painter, my friend, Kelly, who is a master project manager, my friend, Ken, who is a beautiful dancer and a gifted physical therapy assistant, my friend, Brooke, who is one of the most promising young acting talents on television, and my friend and mentor, Richard, who is one of the most successful and talented fundraisers in the nonprofit field. Incidentally, they all have a fabulous sense of humor and are some of the kindest people I’ve ever met.


I suppose that there are Mozarts and Einsteins among us, walking around, born brilliant, born as prodigies. I just don’t know any. All of the brilliant people in my life, and I am very fortunate to have many, have found and leveraged their “T” because they have worked hard at something they love. And they’re better off for this because their hard work also gives them the empathy and appreciation they need to be not only brilliant, but to be imbued with hearts of gold. Their “T”s are apparent in every part of their lives. They give me an example to strive for and are my greatest reason for hope.

business, Examiner, finance, women

Examiner.com: An Update with Amanda Steinberg of DailyWorth

Christa Avampato

Since I first featured Amanda Steinberg, Founder of DailyWorth, the site has grown considerably. DailyWorth is a website that helps women manage their finances, though the information is incredibly valuable for men as well. I recently caught up with her to ask about the site, her business, and how she’s managing change.

art, books, children, creativity

My Year of Hopefulness – Everyone Can Draw

Christa Avampato

“If you think you can’t draw, too bad. Do it anyway.” ~ Tim Brown, CEO of IDEO, in his book Change by Design

I’ve been lamenting for some time that I can’t draw. I’m a much better writer than visual artist, and this is exacerbated because I am an auditory learner, not a visual learner. Thank that’s weird? You’re right – auditory learners make up only 20% of the population. Add it up and it’s easy to understand why I don’t have any natural ability to draw, nor have I ever really had a desire to learn.
And then I read Tim Brown’s excellent book, Change by Design, that explains his philosophy on design-thinking and the future of the field. He talks about mind maps, schematics that illustrate ideas though visual depictions rather than through written briefs or powerpoint presentations. This is a kind of drawing I can get into. Think of them as multi-dimensional tree diagrams blending pictures and words to illustrate ideas. Rather than just working left to right and using the basic construct of option A or B to progress from problem to solution, a mind map starts with a question that takes the form of “How might we ( fill in the blank)?” for a specific population. For my program with Citizen Schools, I will be asking the kids I work with to solve this dilemma with a mind map “How might we build a public school curriculum for the graders to encourage creativity and entrepreneurship?”
As so often happens, as I was reading Tim’s book, I saw an interview with another Tim whom I greatly admire, Tim Burton. He was discussing his views on drawing and creativity and echoed Tim Brown’s sentiment. “Every child believes he or she can draw. Too many adults have found their creativity beaten out of them.” And this brings me back to my long-held belief that I have only just begun to fully articulate: it is much easier (and effective) to help children maintain their creativity through to adulthood than it is to repair the confidence of adults who believe they have no creativity at all.
The truth is that I’ve lost confidence in my ability to draw, believing that my creativity is relegated to writing and developing products and not at all to drawing. The Tims helped me realize that I am selling myself short. Somewhere inside me is a visual artist of some sort yearning for a paint brush (or crayon or chalk or colored pencil) and a canvas (or piece of paper or blank wall or empty piece of sidewalk).
So here I go with another resolution to live a more authentic life: even if it’s not good, I’m going to draw a little bit every week with the help of my mind maps. I’ll let you know, or better yet I’ll show you, how it goes by publishing the pieces to this blog. Stay tuned as I re-teach myself to draw.
The image above is not my own; I’m just starting to draw so my pictures aren’t this good – yet. It is the image created by Tim Brown for the table of content of his book Change by Design. It can be found here.
dreams, family, friendship, future, thankful, thanksgiving

My Year of Hopefulness – More Thankful Than Ever

Christa Avampato

“A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all the other virtues.” ~ Cicero


This Thanksgiving is a particularly special one for me. All week I have been with my family in Florida, playing and laughing and cooking, grateful for all of this time with them. I’ve never spent this much time with them over the holidays. In a year that has been so difficult, in a year when I came very close to not being here at all, I can hardly think of something I’m not grateful for. This Thanksgiving was a big milestone for me because I have been using it as a marker to a time I wanted to get to, a time when I would be in a position to make some big decisions about my life going forward. And this week I have – applying to a PhD program, formulating my own business plan, signing up for a full yoga teacher certification course. Life is looking grand from this side of Thanksgiving.

Today I am very thankful for my family and friends and mentors, people who have not only been supporting me through this difficult year, but also encouraging me to get the most out of my time here.
Earlier this week Weez and I went to the grocery store to do some Thanksgiving shopping and we talked about the fire in my apartment building. I told her how that event really eradicated any fear I have about all aspects of my future; when you almost don’t get a tomorrow, every day is gravy so I might as well get on with doing exactly what I want to do with my days. No more compromises. There’s no sense in waiting. She agreed, as has everyone in my life that I’ve talked to about this experience. That fire made every day Thanksgiving for me.

I’m grateful for my health and my ability to imagine a new future with new dreams. Surprisingly, I’m thankful for all that I lost this year because it has made me so grateful for what I have. It cleaned out my life and made room for a drastically better future than the life I was living. It made me realize that a lot of good can be created from something terrible so long as we have the right attitude, so long as we embrace the idea that everything we live through can be an opportunity for learning, for strength, for love. It’s this learning, strength, and love that I am most thankful for and I plan to use this thankfulness to bring these new dreams of mine to life.
children, education, New York City, teaching

My Year of Hopefulness – It Takes A Village, or an Army

Christa Avampato

I’ve been having a great time in Florida with my niece, Lorelei. I can hardly believe that she’ll be 2 in January. I wrote about her on this blog the day that she was born and she has appeared a number of other times in my posts. It’s fun to watch her learn and change. My sister and brother-in-law are tired pretty much all the time – Lorelei is always on the go and always curious. She’s also somehow inherited insomnia from my mom and I.

While many people say that it takes a village to raise a child, I’d add that it requires a very large village, or in many cases an army. It’s amazing how many things Lorelei gets into. Everything from electric outlets to cabinet doors to chairs that are a tiny bit too tall for her. She needs feeding and changing and washing and activities that teach her reading, her colors, her numbers, etc. And the list goes on. She needs an eye on her constantly.
Lorelei is lucky – she has so many people in her life who watch out for her, who love her, and take care of her. Every day, I think about how lucky she is, and how many kids are not so lucky. I think about how many kids don’t have a village much less an army. Some don’t have anyone at all. This is where we can all come in.
This Fall, I had the opportunity to volunteer teach at one of the best high schools in New York. When I told a friend of mine about the choice I had to make to do that assignment or work on my own program in East Harlem, she said, “Christa, those kids in that high school are fine. They don’t need you. They have plenty of advantages. Whether or not you’re there won’t matter to them. It will matter to those kids in East Harlem. Go where you’re needed.”
Every day, we have a chance to be a part of a child’s village, and it’s most important for us to begin building a village for kids who don’t have one at all. This might be the greatest challenge of our time. We can be that village, that army, with a small donation of time or money or concern. If we have any interest at all in the future of our planet, in the future of our own children, we have to stand up for other kids who need us.
religion, The Journal of Cultural Conversation, travel

The Journal of Cultural Conversation – Lessons in Spirituality and Why I Hugged a Tree Yesterday

Christa Avampato

This is a post by my writing pal, Laura, on her latest adventure in Peru. Enjoy!


I grew up in a very Catholic household. Before my super cool mom married my equally remarkable dad, she was a nun. I won’t elaborate – that should explain most of it.

For the full post, click here.
education, social change

My Year of Hopefulness – Learn by Doing

Christa Avampato
This week Michael Sandel at Harvard talked about Aristotle’s Politics. Sandel compares the art of politics to playing an instrument, telling a joke, and cooking. Theses disciplines cannot be learned just from a book or by watching others. Great political orators like great musicians, comics, and cooks must be actively engaged in their craft, practicing consistently, to become masters of it.

Social change is the same way. We can read and write about social change. We can study it. We can be inspired by others who are actively generating social change though only by rolling up our sleeves and participating can we understand the particulars, the details, needed to create change. Change requires trial and error, a variety of approaches, and practice.

In the coming weeks I’ll be attending the final projects, called Wow!s, for this semester’s Citizen Schools afterschool programs. Attending these sessions will give me an idea of what I need to put together for Innovation Station, the afterschool program for 6th graders in East Harlem that I am building around the concepts of innovation and entrepreneurship. I will learn so much by attending these Wow!s, though I know that this Spring I need to get in there and test the methods myself. I’m looking forward to the practice.